Why mindfulness is an embodied practice—and what it can teach us about living well
Mindfulness has become part of our everyday vocabulary. We’re encouraged to eat mindfully, work mindfully, parent mindfully and even shop mindfully. Yet for something we hear so much about, there is still considerable confusion about what mindfulness actually means.
Perhaps you imagine sitting cross-legged, trying to clear your mind of thoughts. Or maybe you’ve tried meditation and concluded that you’re simply “not very good at it” because your mind wandered within the first few seconds. The good news is that wandering minds aren’t a sign that mindfulness has gone wrong. They are part of the practice.
At its simplest, mindfulness is about learning to pay attention to our experience as it is happening, with curiosity and less judgement. And that seemingly simple capacity can begin to change not necessarily what we experience, but how we relate to it.
Mindfulness isn’t about Emptying Your Mind
One of the most persistent misconceptions about mindfulness is that the aim is to stop thinking. It isn’t. Our brains are designed to think, remember, anticipate, plan and solve problems. These abilities are enormously useful. The difficulty arises when we become so absorbed in our thoughts that we barely notice where our attention has gone.
You may have experienced this while driving somewhere familiar and realising you remember very little of the journey. Or perhaps you’ve been having a conversation while mentally composing an email, worrying about tomorrow or replaying something that happened yesterday.
Mindfulness doesn’t ask us to stop thinking. Instead, we practise recognising when our attention has wandered and deliberately bringing it back to what is happening now.
That distinction is important. The goal isn’t to have an empty mind. It is to become more aware of where our mind has gone.
The Gold is in the Coming Back
People often assume that someone who is “good” at mindfulness can remain completely present for long periods without becoming distracted. In reality, even experienced meditators have wandering minds. The practice happens when we notice.
For example, you might be following the rise and fall of your breath and suddenly realise you’ve spent the last two minutes planning dinner. You notice and come back. Thirty seconds later you’re replaying a conversation. You notice and come back again.
Notice. Return. Notice. Return.
From a neurological perspective, this repeated returning is particularly interesting. Mindfulness practice engages brain networks involved in attention, awareness and the regulation of our responses. This is why you’ll often hear mindfulness teachers saying that the gold is not necessarily in being present, but in coming back to presence.
Every return is another opportunity to practise awareness and choice, and every return strengthens these neural pathways. So, the point isn’t to achieve a permanently calm or perfectly focused brain, but to practise recognising where your attention has gone and deliberately redirect it. And while this practice involves training our attention, one of the most powerful ways of bringing that attention back to the present is through the body.
Mindfulness is an Embodied Practice
Despite its name, mindfulness isn’t something that happens only in the mind. Our experience of life is profoundly physical, with thoughts and emotions often accompanied by changes in the body. Stress may show up as tension in our shoulders or changes in our breathing, while anxiety might bring a fluttering stomach or racing heart. Equally, pleasure, excitement, safety and connection can all be felt physically.
This makes the body one of our most useful anchors to the present moment. We can notice the movement of the breath, our feet against the floor, the sensation of walking or the warmth of water on our hands. While our thoughts can travel effortlessly into yesterday or tomorrow, the body is always here.
Mindfulness isn’t about scrutinising every sensation, but reconnecting with an experience we can easily overlook when we’re absorbed in thought. It is not simply about paying attention with your mind, but learning to inhabit your experience more fully. And, as you become better at noticing what is happening in your body, you will also become better at recognising your reactions as they unfold. This can create a little more space between what you experience and how you respond.
To learn more about being embodied and why it’s important, read our article: What Is Your Body Trying to Tell You? Learning to Listen to the Signals We Often Ignore
Creating Space Between Experience and Response
Imagine receiving an email that immediately makes you angry. Before you’ve even reached the final sentence, your heart is beating faster, your muscles have tightened and you’re already composing a reply. There is nothing unusual about this; our brains and bodies are designed to respond quickly to things we perceive as threatening or challenging.
The difficulty is that your first reaction isn’t always the response you would choose if you had a little more space. Mindfulness helps us notice the reaction as it unfolds: I’m angry. My chest feels tight. I’m having the thought that this person is being unreasonable. I really want to respond immediately.
That awareness doesn’t make the anger disappear or suggest that you shouldn’t feel it. Instead, it creates a small but important pause in which you can ask, How do I want to respond? Mindfulness may not give you control over what arises, but it can give you greater choice about what happens next.
Changing Our Relationship with Experience
We can spend enormous amounts of energy trying to control our internal experience. We want uncomfortable feelings to disappear, difficult thoughts to stop and uncertainty to resolve. Sometimes we add another layer of difficulty by criticising ourselves for feeling what we feel: I shouldn’t be anxious. I should be coping better.
Mindfulness offers a different approach. Rather than immediately trying to change or escape an experience, we practise noticing it. A thought becomes something we are having, rather than necessarily a fact we must believe. An emotion can be experienced without assuming it will last forever, while an uncomfortable sensation can be approached with curiosity rather than resistance.
This doesn’t mean passively accepting circumstances that need to change. We can acknowledge what is happening while still choosing what action may be needed. Sometimes the most meaningful change isn’t in the experience itself, but in our relationship with that experience.
Awareness Needs Compassion
There is another important aspect of mindfulness that can be lost when we reduce it simply to “paying attention”: how we pay attention matters.
Becoming more aware of ourselves isn’t necessarily helpful if we simply criticise everything we notice. We recognise that we’re distracted and decide we’re hopeless at meditation, or notice our anxiety and become frustrated with ourselves for not coping better. Mindfulness invites a different quality of attention, one characterised by curiosity, patience and compassion.
Compassion doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine or excusing behaviour that needs to change. It allows us to see our experience clearly without adding self-criticism to an already difficult situation. This can be surprisingly challenging, particularly when we readily offer understanding to others while holding ourselves to much harsher standards. Learning to meet our experience with both awareness and compassion can change not only what we notice, but how we relate to ourselves.
You Don’t Have to Meditate to Be Mindful
Formal meditation is one way of developing mindfulness, giving us an opportunity to practise noticing where our attention has gone and gently bringing it back. But mindfulness doesn’t need to remain on a meditation cushion; everyday life offers countless opportunities to practise.
We might notice the movement of our body while walking, feel our feet on the floor before a difficult conversation or actually taste the first sip of our morning coffee rather than drinking it while reading emails. The ordinary transitions in our day can be particularly useful: before opening the next message, entering a meeting or moving from work into family life, we can pause briefly, notice where we are, feel the body and take a breath before continuing.
These moments may seem insignificant, but mindfulness is built through these repeated acts of returning. And importantly, what we return to doesn’t always have to feel calm or comfortable.
Mindfulness Isn’t About Being Calm All the Time
Because mindfulness is often presented as a relaxation technique, it’s easy to assume that we’re doing it well only when we feel calmer. While calm can certainly be a welcome consequence of practice, it isn’t the goal.
Sometimes being present means noticing that we’re anxious, angry, sad or exhausted; at other times, we may become aware of something pleasant that we were previously too distracted to appreciate. Mindfulness isn’t about manufacturing a particular state, but becoming more available to the experience we’re actually having.
This is why mindfulness shouldn’t become another standard against which we judge ourselves. We will still become distracted, overwhelmed, impatient and reactive. The practice lies in recognising when this has happened and knowing that we can begin again, without criticising ourselves for having wandered. We don’t have to remain perfectly present or perfectly calm; we simply practise finding our way back.
Bringing Mindfulness into Everyday Life
If you’d like to explore mindfulness, you don’t need to begin with a lengthy meditation practice. Start with something small.
Choose one ordinary moment each day and give it your full attention. Feel the water when you shower. Notice your surroundings while you walk to and from your car. Take three conscious breaths before opening your laptop. Listen to someone without simultaneously planning what you’re going to say next. When your mind wanders, and it will, notice where it has gone and gently return.
Over time, these moments can begin to change the way you move through your days. You may recognise tension earlier, become more aware of habitual reactions or notice when you’re caught in an unhelpful train of thought. You may also become better at noticing the good things: a conversation, a beautiful morning, a meal you enjoy or simply the feeling of being fully engaged in something that matters to you.
Mindfulness doesn’t require you to step away from ordinary life. Ordinary life is where you practise it.
Take-Home Message: Coming Back to Your Life
Perhaps mindfulness has endured because its central invitation is remarkably simple: notice where you are, notice what is happening and come back to your experience.
Our minds will inevitably wander into plans, memories, worries and distractions. The practice isn’t preventing this, but noticing when it happens and returning with a little less judgement and more kindness.
Over time, this can create more space between experience and response, greater awareness of what our minds and bodies are telling us, and more presence for the life unfolding around us. Mindfulness isn’t about escaping our experience, but learning to meet it with greater awareness and choice.
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Dr. Susan McGarvie
Mindfulness-Based Therapeutic Coach
Dr. Susan McGarvie works with adults to support personal change and growth using mindfulness, positive psychology, and coaching. With over 20 years of experience across healthcare, nonprofits, and academia, her work combines evidence-based practice with compassionate, practical support.
